2018 has been a mixed bag in my marriage. We had some pretty cool things happen. Like our trip to Switzerland with my youngest son Jordan. But then we also experienced some pain. Two weeks before the trip my mom died. Additionally, my wife Marian was dealing with chronic stress at work. Meanwhile, I have been busy working on another business set to launch in January 2019. We didn’t realize until recently how much of a toll these things were taking on our marriage. We weren’t in crisis by any stretch but a gradual distance was creeping in. I’d say there was less connection and a little more conflict. Eventually, we talked about it. We opened up about how we were feeling and what was contributing to the disconnect. The consensus was, “we are better than this”. So, we decided to get back to the things we find works well for us.
A common question in the minds of many couples fraught by frenetic activity that keeps them locked into the busyness of family life and often at odds with each other. They keep giving to everyone else and have little left for themselves or each other for that matter. Bad habits can form quickly in marriage. Couples interact in passing. Short quick “hello” “goodbye”. Hardly time for a kiss or an embrace. Text has replaced talk. “I’m busy. You need something, text me.”
Aren’t we better than this?